Monday, December 30, 2013

Death rates soar among women using prescription drugs

Though I can understand much of the sentiment of this article, I am also appalled that a doctor thinks of women so poorly. People with Fibromyalgia have been misunderstood enough, and for a doctor to allude to the fact that women "doctor shop" just to get drugs, is just plain disgusting. I'm also angry that he is quoted in saying "How do you do no harm?"

Yes, we as a society, ALL have to take responsibility in drug overdoses. It's an epidemic and something needs to be done. But I think it's COMPLETELY wrong for a doctor, a health insurance company, or a drug industry to assume that the blame is equal across the board between them and us as the consumer. Here's why:

The businesses we work for-- you know, the ones who pay us so we can pay our medical bills-- "shop" for health insurance. They don't want to pay a lot. They want to make money. I can't blame them. But when they "shop", it forces us to "shop" for a new doctor 9 times out of 10 because our original doctor is usually not one that is covered. This has happened to me so many times, I've lost count. And I would have kept my original doctor. I liked him. But I simply just couldn't afford him anymore.

Sometimes we as consumers have to "shop" too. We do this because the doctor we were suggested to go to has an absolutely appalling bedside manner. I am guilty of "shopping" on occasion because I don't like doctors that don't look up from their prescription pads. NEWSFLASH! FIBRO PATIENTS DO NOT LIKE MEDICATION! THEY HATE IT! And personally, I'd rather avoid it because it can make me feel worse. Not better. And if you as a doctor can't make eye contact with me, I don't want you as a doctor. Sorry, but like my mother told me when I first started dating, I'm more than just a body.

Then there are the billions of pill commercials on TV that claim, "Take this and you can go back to dancing and running marathons." Um, no. I'm not going to take your word for it. That pill could interact with my vitamins or diet, or worse, it could have a side effect that I mistake as my common Fibromyalgia symptoms. My joints swell with Fibro. It's not an incredibly common symptom, but it is a symptom. Therefore it would be pretty hard for me to take the most commonly drug prescribed because swelling is an effect to look for, and if that happens, you are supposed to discontinue use because that's a deadly symptom.

Our society got to overuse and abuse of drugs because we had a business, the healthcare industry, decide to make common consumers more responsible. And that's great that you all want us to be our own advocates. I applaud you for that! It's a very positive thing! Go all of you for thinking that way!

BUT, here's the thing, you can't make us more responsible if you don't give us ALL of the information we need to make an informed decision. That's where the fine line of "do no harm" comes in. Your industry is supposed to be the experts. You all went to school for a lot longer than we did. You spent long hours studying and you spent long hours as interns. We are grateful for you to do that. That's why we pay you quite a bit to help us make an informed decision based on your expert opinion.

It's about time you, the ones who want to share the blame a lot more than it should be shared, realize that your responsibility is FAR greater than the average consumers for this drug problem. You have the degrees. We don't. We only have the internet and the TV to inform us. And MOST of the time those avenues are cluttered with false statements because someone would rather sell us something than to actually help us. A doctor, a health insurance company, and a drug company, needs to be advocates as well. And NOT salesman.
Death rates soar among women using prescription drugs

Stay fabulous!
Love and friendship,


Friday, December 20, 2013

Sad Cat Diary

I know this video is a little off topic, well okay, it's A LOT off topic, but I thought you could use a little laugh. Not all of you may be cat lovers, but even if you know just a little about cats, or the expressions they give off from time to time, you will get this and hopefully laugh.

Sometimes with this illness, I tend to get too serious for my own good. In a sense, I ketch myself. My OCD used to be about cleaning, but now I find that I will obsess about eating perfect, thinking perfect, or exercising perfect so I feel okay. And honestly, that's not how I should be. That kind of thinking will eventually get me into the same trouble I had BD (Before Diagnosis).

So please, have a laugh, remember what it's like to just feel. We OCD people forget to do that because we are ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS trying to strive for perfection.

Oh, and dog lovers, I haven't forgotten about you. How can I? Sport is just as much a part of my life as Onyx! I'll post a "Sad Dog Diary" soon!

Stay fabulous!
Love and friendship,


Study Shows Links of Childhood Pain to Adult Chronic Pain and Fibromyalgia

Study Shows Links of Childhood Pain to Adult Chronic Pain and Fibromyalgia
This study just confirms what I've known all along. I've had Fibro since birth.

Friday, December 6, 2013

What I'm Thankful For This Holiday Season

It's been a while since my last post and I apologize for that.  National Novel Writing Month got the best of me during the month of November and when I mean the best, I mean the best.  I was determined to write 50,000 words this year.  Very determined. 

Why?  Well, I lost four years in a row.  I didn't make 50,000 words.  I wrote.  And I have many, many started stories.  But none of them were finished.

This year?  I hit 50,000!  YAY!!!  But it wasn't easy.  It hasn't been for the past 5 years because something always happens.  Within the past 5 years someone, or a pet(s), has died.  Yup.  Every November and that has always made me stop. 

November used to be my Uncle's favorite holiday.  He liked it because it wasn't ridden with commercialism.  And even though this may sound bias because I loved my Uncle John greatly, God rest his soul, I like Thanksgiving for the same reason.

But, November tends to be the time that people leave this plane.  Maybe because they hate the holidays as much as I do due to retail LOL! 

Now, forgive me because I know that spirituality is a sensitive subject.  And I'm not sure how you all feel.  I'm not you.  But I know how I feel, and it's from years of study of all beliefs, including atheism. 

That may surprise some of you because you have read how I feel.  My faithful readers know that my belief is FAR from atheism.  But that doesn't mean that I don't understand it.  I have a background study in ALL beliefs. 

I did that so I could remain sensitive to everyone I come across.  I felt it was the only way I could understand people, and frankly speaking, I also felt it was the only way I could walk the way Jesus truly did.  He had to learn the way of his people to talk about the love of God.  So that's why I went and studied every religion.  I needed to learn what people thought.  And I learned that no matter what we believe, we ALL love.  That's that.

So if you feel I offend you in my beliefs, please understand that I already know your own and I will not debate them here in a banter.  BUT I respect and love you for you.  So please feel free to comment as long as you understand that your comments need to be negative free.

However, having said all of that, my Aunt died about a week before NaNo finished.  I know that she wanted to leave here.  She didn't want to be sick or be put on a feeding tube.  That wasn't her style.  She was a vivacious woman who celebrated life every chance she got, so I can see why she'd want to check out of a body that wanted to quit.

My emotions last week were raw.  They still are, even though my Aunt has been sick for a while.  Yet, even though it happened and I felt grief, just like I did for the past 4 years, I decided to do something I had never done before in my life.  I asked for help. 

Yup.  I enlisted the help of all of my writer friends to give me some positive encouragement to help me finish NaNo.  And you know what?  It helped!  So much so that I've carried it into my editing stage for this month!

I'll have you know that this story's origin started in about 2008, when I first had a thought to write it.  I didn't "win" then.  I barely scratched the surface.  But that has all changed now, and I can't thank my writer friends, as well as, my face-time friends, enough for the positive push.

So my fibro friends, I have to ask you this... The next time you have something important going on in your life, something that literally could mean the life or death of your essence, please, please, please, enlist the help of your friends to encourage you to go on.  It could mean the world to you.  And I hope you know that your friend list includes me!

Stay fabulous my friends!

Love and friendship,

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