Tuesday, June 29, 2010

It'll Keep

When I was younger I always remembered those words being uttered from my Grandmother, It'll keep.  The reference was always in regards to a household chore or errand that had to be run.  Her thought was simple, if it wasn't needed at that very second, it could wait to be done.  She was right.

The only problem with It'll keep is the when.  When can be a big problem for Fibro sufferers because our pain determines the when at times. I can't tell you how often I hear from my family the words, "Do we have to do that now?"  The that usually refers to me cleaning the one and only bathroom or the kitchen floor, two very important areas of the house that seem to be needed 24 hours a day in my home.  I find it comical that no one seems to need anything until I start to clean.

It is then, of course, that I have to stop what I'm doing and pray to God that I don't get too stiff or tired while waiting to finish the job.  There are some occasions where this does happen to me, especially recently since I'm caring for my Grandparents too.  It is during those times that I use the It'll keep mantra.

I'm a perfectionist and I absolutely HATE to leave any job unfinished.  Caring for my grandparents this year, however, has taught me that it's okay to do things good enough.  I now mop my floor good enough instead of moving EVERYTHING in the kitchen so I can get all the cracks and crevices so it's perfect.  I now reserve perfect for those special occasions when I'm having company.

Good enough also works for meals, dusting, and all around straightening up.  Simple and quick meals like grilled cheese on 12 grain bread, tomato salad, or chicken sausage with apples over jasmine rice can all be prepared in about 20 minutes, are healthy, and save you from slaving over a hot stove in the summer.

Dusting a room can be taxing if you have a lot of what we call chochkeys (knicknacks).  I used to have MANY of those things because I'm such a sentimental Taurus.  I kept every little card and token someone gave me.  I still have some things from friends that were given to me in middle school and I just can't part with them because they are special to me.  But what I've learned over the years is that I don't have to put EVERYTHING out on display.  I now have scrapbooks to put cherished cards and photos in and I've consolidated my holiday and home decorations to a minimum so I don't have dust as much.

I also straighten up rooms quickly too by putting toys to one side.  The kids can see them better and that makes the chances of getting them back into their rooms easier.  I also try to organize where I can.  I have a pot lid organizer on my kitchen wall, an office dry and push-pin board by the entrance, and magazine racks on my bookshelves.  These little things make my life a little less messy because I can keep my pots, bills and important mail, and writers magazines within reach and within order.

The rest, well, It'll keep.

Stay Fabulous!
Love and Friendship,


Wednesday, June 16, 2010

The Facts about Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue! Some things on the web just aren't true.

In this post I will share an article I wrote in this month's The People's Press News .  This article was written after seeing a shocking Twitter post.  I wanted to set the record straight and let people know that not everything that's posted out there on the World Wide Web is true.  The article appears as the third on the page entitled The Facts about Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue! Some things on the web just aren't true.  

Stay Fabulous!

Love and Friendship,


Saturday, June 12, 2010

True Balance and Fibromyalgia

I don't share too many books in this blog.  It's usually because I don't get much of a chance to read books that have words in them too often.  Little kids tend to find words pretty boring, you know.  But this book has me sneaking the flashlight into the bedroom because it's that good!

I'll admit that the subject matter is geared towards the New Age crowd because it deals with chakras, but this book is really great for Fibromyalgia sufferers.  It doesn't go into great detail about the history of chakras and it isn't filled with a bunch of meditative exercises that you need to do when you have a quiet moment.  I like to meditate-- don't get me wrong, however, I'd probably be old and gray if I waited for a quiet moment to practice any new form of meditation.

There is nothing wrong with meditation.  It's a great way to relax.  I've used it many times during my B.C. (Before Children) years.  I was able to keep my chakras in line and even fix weakened ones back then all through meditation.  The A.D. years (After Daughters) really don't lend me to meditate far beyond the contemplation of my name.  I don't get a lot of spare time to do much besides these posts so finding a book that is down-to-earth without all the new age tree hugging is very refreshing.

True Balance: A Commonsense Guide for Renewing Your Spirit by Sonia Choquette, PH.D. explains each region of the body and what it governs.  She then explains what you may or may not be lacking in that particular chakra.  There are questions to answer after each section making it easy for the common person to see if that particular body region is weak. 

Illnesses may also factor into a weak chakra, even a chronic one like Fibromyalgia.  For instance the root chakra or base chakra governs our bones, blood, immune system, colon, rectum, legs, and feet.  Fibromyalgia in some cases is considered an auto immune disease.  Having said that, it may mean one's first chakra is imbalanced and we can follow any of the suggestions listed once we go through a series of detailed questions geared towards seeing just how imbalanced our first chakra is. 

The questions are set up as yes, no, or sometimes, and are easy to answer.  Questions like, are you preoccupied with food, money, control? dawn the page at the end of each chapter.  The suggestions are also not only easy to follow but fun too.  One suggestion is go and get a monthly pedicure!  I never really thought about it before I read this book, but I always seemed to feel more calm and relaxed about life in the summer months.  That might have a lot to do with my home pedicures. 

You see, I, like a lot of other people (I hope) only think about my feet when it's sandal season.  During that time I go to the local Walmart and treat myself to a new nail polish color so I can paint my toes all summer long.  I really splurged this year and went with the french manicure because it was on clearance.  Yep, that's the cheap me talking-- no wonder my base chakra is low LOL!

Creative slumps, which are a symptom of a weak second chakra, have plagued me from time to time too.  I once had writer's block that lasted 10 years.  It lasted so long that I started using my laptop as a paper weight for my bills.  Sad, yes, but a reality for me.  My Sears retail job literally sucked the life out of me and it's no wonder that I used to have nightmares about the floor breaking apart underneath my feet, leading me to Hell.

I recently felt a slump because I felt trapped again due to lack of time.  It's unfortunate but sometimes our busy lives can suck the life out of us too.  I've been feeling a bit stressed because Brittanny is nearing the end of another school year and that means a lot of spring concerts, picnics, and fundraisers that we have to attend.  I normally take it in stride and try to tackle one event at a time but caring for two households is putting a damper on that stress free solution.  There are days when I'm driving back and forth at least 4 times a day and that translates to 2 hours in the car alone.  It can be a tough juggling act, but not impossible.

On those days I carve out some time right after dinner and take a 30 minute walk with the kids.  It's a great low impact exercise and I can do it even when my back is hurting from a long extended sitting period.  I also like to get a glimpse of the robins and the occasional ground hog that inhabit the densely wooded apartment complex with us.  Nature walks have always been a favorite past time of mine.

Another quick pick me up that Sonia suggests in the book is to buy some fresh cut flowers.  I actually did that the other day and you can see a picture of them here.

I can tell you that it's made a world of difference, or at least enough to manage 2 blog entries in one night.  I'll take it as an accomplishment none the less. 

Stay fabulous!
Love and friendship,


Life Interrupted | It's Not All About Me...

I met Chris recently at a social book marketing network on the net and became instantly intrigued by his message. He does not have Fibromyalgia, however, he understands what can happen in a marriage when one has a chronic illness. Chris has MS and it unfortunately destroyed his first marriage. He, like all sufferers at one point in the life of their disease, took on the poor me outlook. This outlook usually does not bode well for relationships. In fact, it usually makes them short-lived. That was the case for Chris.

Since then, Mr. Tatevosian has written a book about relationships and chronic illness entitled Life Interrupted, It's Not All About Me. He also does motivational speaking events around the Mass area and even hosts his own radio show called Winning Life Through Pain. All are geared towards relationships and chronic illness.

Chris's message really hits home for all chronic sufferers, including fibromites. I encourage you all to take a look at his site. He is a wonderful person to talk to, is very giving of his time, and is really upbeat.

Life Interrupted | It's Not All About Me...: The Website

Bizymoms.com: The Interview

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

dBusinessNews :: Daily Business News Delivered to Your Desktop

dBusinessNews :: Daily Business News Delivered to Your Desktop

This is something worth looking into. Something that mimics a human thumb to massage trigger points of Fibromyalgia. This sounds great!

Stay fabulous,
Love and friendship,


Friday, June 4, 2010

Remembrance of Foods Past

Remembrance of Foods Past

I thought I'd discuss Comfort Foods today because it's a topic I haven't done in a long time. Above is an article dedicated to comfort foods for Senior Citizens. The writer makes a lot of good points that I've been expressing to my family and friends. I just haven't discussed them here since Senior care is a little off topic.

However, the idea of comfort foods also applies to Fibro sufferers. I went on an elimination diet when I was first diagnosed because I was convinced that a lot of the foods I was eating at the time were, put simply, killing me. I started with easy things, like eliminating boxed foods, such as mac & cheese. This was a great help. I started feeling a lot better and didn't want to look back, but I had this nagging feeling that would creep up on me from time to time. I couldn't help but feel like I was missing something. It was an awful feeling that at times left me depressed.

The reason why I felt this way wasn't from the Fibro, it ran much deeper. The problem with the elimination diet, at least to the newly diagnosed, is that it's hard to part with some comfort foods. I'm not into sweets, but I love salty foods like frozen pizza bites and mac & cheese. These foods were hard to give up because they really meant a lot more to me than sustenance. They were like a home coming that brought me back to the days when my mom was cooking. We'd talk while she prepared cut up, boiled hot dogs with mac & cheese and a dash of salt. The smell and the taste of that dish brings me back to a carefree time when both my mother and I weren't sick.

I may not be able to get that time back with my mom due to her Alzheimer's, but I can get back my memory of her cooking away with some comfort food every now and again. You might wonder how this could be possible since the food store isles are over stocked with products containing MSG and other chemicals they disguise as "additives". Well, it is possible if you are willing to do a little research while shopping. There are products, even hot dogs that are friendly to Fibro sufferers. Cookouts no longer have to be feared-- YEAH!!! All you have to do is look for a hot dog that doesn't contain fillers, in other words, a kosher product.

Boxed mac & cheese is another favorite of mine and I don't have to miss it either because I have substituted an organic one in it's place. The organic ones, which can usually be found right next to the chemically processed ones, don't contain any dyes that color your pasta an orange, yellow. These boxed products have actual real cheese that doesn't glow in the dark, a welcome change for this food lover.

It's been refreshing to see food stores changing with the times and stock wholesome products. Food stores have a long way to go before any of us can zip through the isles without having to scrutinize labels, but it's comforting to see some major changes none the less.

Stay fabulous!
Love and friendship,


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