Thursday, August 27, 2015

What Chronic Pain is Doing to America

I came across an article very earlier this morning from the Huffington Post stating that 25 million people suffer from some type of chronic pain in the United States. These types include, but are not limited to, lower back pain, fibromyalgia, and even cancers. To this blogger, these numbers of sufferers have become alarmingly high and very little has been done to cure many of these diseases and conditions. Offering only pain medications to this growing number of people is not a solution.

Many of these sufferers are not only dealing with constant pain but are also more susceptible to depression. Depression in and of itself is a horrible condition that causes its own aches and pains, difficulty with sleep, feelings of hopelessness, and difficulty with concentration. However, certain chronic conditions like fibromyalgia will give you a double dose of the same types of symptoms.

What is not helping these sufferers is that society is taking a blind eye to the issue by making it more and more difficult for an invisibly ill person to function normally. Many sufferers have been forced to quit long time careers because they were told (or felt) they couldn't hack the rat race any longer. I find this sad because there are 25 million talented people out there suffering because there still continues to be people that think a disabled person cannot perform any important tasks quickly. I completely disagree with this line of thinking. Since when does everything have to done in a matter of minutes?

I went to college to become a journalist, and I believe that all writers should write to the best of their ability. To me, that means that a writer should be doing fact checking. Now in today's content producing society, many do not share in my belief. These people would rather produce a retraction article (if they ever even bother) than to take the time to produce something of quality.

And it does not stop with just a writer. Editors today are told NOT to pursue fact checking either unless they have first-hand knowledge of the information being erroneous. I've seen this in a number of job position descriptions and if you don't believe me-- fact-check it for yourself. You will probably wind up feeling just as disgusted as I am.

Today, I thought I'd apply for a content position for a site that supposedly had a great reputation for having top-notch writers. I started the application and found it to be typical since it asked common grammar questions, but then it asked for me to write an essay on a specific topic in under 10 minutes.

I have been writing for over three decades and have a wealth of experience under my belt, but even I cannot write a well-written and correctly factual essay or article in under 10 minutes. That's crazy for even a reputable place to think that anyone could do so!

Why? Because these are not the days of the Britannica Encyclopedia! There actually are shady people catering their words into articles that are nothing more than an advertisement for their favorite political leader or product. And guess what? That means the article is bias! Who on Earth would want to hire a writer that is bias? This was just unheard of a couple of decades ago!

And even though I'm being specific to the writing industry, please don't be nieve in thinking that this sort of thing doesn't happen in other professions because it does. Every day employees are faced with rushing a job in order to please a completely unethical boss. We wouldn't have so many lawsuits today if bosses allowed employees to work thoroughly and efficiently. The times of rushing just need to stop! And not just for the sake of actual pride in a job well done, but also for the fact that 25 million people are counting on being able to contribute to society!

The US is already faced with an epidemic of people filing for disability income. In 2011 alone, the government passed out 250 billion dollars in claims to 23 million Americans according to CNN Money. I think businesses need to now, more than ever, step up to the plate and allow flexible work schedules, as well as off-site/ remote working conditions, for disabled Americans so we can all make a solid and HEALTHY step towards the future of America.


Stay fabulous!
Love and friendship,

Kimberley

Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Fibro and Family Stress

Most of you know that I have been taking care of my grandparents and mom because of their illnesses and elderly needs. What you may not know is that my grandmother has passed. She was 94.

This post will not be like my regular posts because I'm still dealing with a lot of stress so I will be streaming my emotions in this piece.

It has taken me some time to write about this because I've been an emotional mess, and unfortunately due to my OCD, I like to keep my mess nice and tidy-- especially when it comes to death.

Death has always been a taboo subject with me. I had a friend in high school die while I was entering my Senior Year. And during that year I also had a Great Grandma and Grandma die, too. I became very humbled at that point in my life because I took the sympathy that people could offer me. Granted it wasn't much because the grown ups in my life thought I shouldn't be hurt or upset since I was young-- OR-- they thought I should be strong for someone else because I was mature for my age. Needless to say that part of my life was a mess.

Moving on a few years later, I lost one of the few people that understood me, my Uncle. It's been 20 years since his death and people can say that the pain lessens over time, but I know for a fact that it really doesn't. All that happens is that you find some normal times where you talk to that person you miss so much. But the pain-- it's always there-- and full on when you least expect it.

Maybe some people say that the pain lessens because they are used to crying. I can say I'm SO not used to that. I don't do that because I have kids and they shouldn't see me that way. They don't get to see me hurt because I'm Wonder Woman in their eyes. So I can't cry. My Father was a similar man, but was, and always will be, my Super Man.

The only times I ever saw my Father shed tears were for joyous occasions, and I tend to do the same-- unless a sappy Disney movie gets to me. ;) BOTH my Father and I share that trait to a degree-- never saw him cry at a movie-- probably wouldn't want to either since he's my Superman.

Tonight, though, I'm sad for a different reason. I'm crying, but no one is around so it's acceptable. I am mourning for the old times. The times when everything was great and joyous. The times where this room that I'm am typing away in was filled with laughter and food.

It's now a study. I made it that way to change things up. I NEED it that way right now because things are still too raw.

But getting back to what happened today-- I just removed what I hope is the last horrible reminder of Alzheimer's and old age in the house. I went to check on my youngest and wanted to shut her door so the cat and dog wouldn't go into her room.

She's not allergic, but my husband and I are, and we are trying to teach the animals not to be with us at night. ANYWAY as I was shutting the door, I noticed the latch Grandma put on it to keep the room shut off from Grandpa.

She stuck it there so Grandpa wouldn't go in there and hide the bank statements/banking accounts on her because she needed pay the bills. Grandpa was pretty far gone with Alzheimer's when she had to do it and I should have noticed it when we took my Uncle John's name off of the door a few days ago, but I didn't because I was blind to it then.

It's now off, along with Uncle John's name on the door, and I feel a little better. Not MUCH because I STILL feel like I'm in HER house and not mine, but hopefully all of that will change as time goes on.

Stay fabulous!
Love and friendship,

Kimberley

Tuesday, May 26, 2015

FM Aware July Edition

They liked the article! They LIKED the article! YAY!!!! My article with the working title, "Top 10 Reasons Fibro Sufferers Should Have Sex", will appear in the July addition of FM AWARE. This magazine is put out by the National Fibromyalgia Association​.

Stay fabulous!
Love and friendship,

Kimberley

Friday, May 22, 2015

Need Some Time

I have had a death in the family and have chosen to take some time off from public social media posts. I just need a little time and will be back shortly.

Wednesday, May 13, 2015

The Dust is Starting to Fly Again

Last year I came to the conclusion that this website needed a major change because it was getting rather large and too cumbersome for readers to navigate. I had decided to move things into categories so it is easier for you to look around at specific things.

When I started this last year I thought I could accomplish it by the end of last summer, but my author website crashed and I had spent all of my time revamping that one. This one kind of fell to the wayside because it was at least up and running.

Now that summer is fast approaching again, I HOPE to finish what I started and move postings to specific pages. I have done a little today thank goodness! So for those returning, all my postings from the past year are now organized into page categories that you will see up at the top. Each entry will have the corresponding date of when it was first posted on the website.

I will still continue to post the latest entries as I always have-- this is a blog after all LOL! BUT I will then copy the entry into the appropriate category so you can reference it at a later time. Hope this helps all of you to navigate the blog better!

Stay fabulous!

Kimberley

Monday, April 13, 2015

Happy, Calm, Focused

Fibro and Fabulous was given a brain supplement called HCF (Happy, Calm, and Focused) in exchange for an honest review a few weeks back.

The HCF bottle is a one month supply containing 90 pills. The supplement contains vitamins A, E, B1, B2, B3, B6, B12, B5, Folic Acid, Biotin, Calcium, Iron, Magnesium, Zinc, Chromium, and Amino Acids, all of which are helpful for Fibro sufferers. The direction are quite similar to other mood supplements like Sam-e and suggest you take it 30 minutes before a meal for the best absorption. You can take all three pills at once or space them out.

I happen to like this product. It definitely does what it says and helps you to stay happy, calm, and focused. I noticed a change right away, but that may be because I was in a flare when I started the supplement. Lately, I have been suffering from anxiety and depression with this flare and I noticed an almost instant change in my mood that even lasted if I forgot to take them one day.

I also personally tried taking all three at once in the beginning, then spaced them out, then tried taking all three at different times of the day to see if the results would change and to my surprise, I found that it did. Taking them in the afternoon allowed me to have more restorative sleep in the evening, but further testing on my part is needed because I only tried this a couple of times through out the month. I'd like to see if that assumption continually holds true. Taking them in the morning helped me to keep alert and awake in the afternoon, something I continue to struggle with and spreading the pills out by taking them right before breakfast, lunch, and dinner seemed to work nicely too. Spreading out the dosage kept me more even tempered throughout the day.

This supplement is hypoallergenic, has no preservatives, chemicals, coatings, calories, sweeteners, enhancers, fragrance, dairy, gluten, nuts, or wheat. I did not experience any side effects while taking this supplement. They do, however, caution pregnant and nursing mothers, as well as, people taking MAO to consult a physician before taking the product.  

I really like how effective this product is and the fact that it works naturally. You don't have a jolt of energy or a jolt of happiness followed by a crash. You simply feel calmly stable throughout the day. For more information on HCF, visit their website at: http://www.happycalmfocused.com/

Stay fabulous,

Kimberley

Sunday, April 5, 2015

Wednesday, February 25, 2015

Thoughts on Housework and Fibromyalgia

I've given housework a lot of thought over the years. When I was in my twenties, I used to feel guilty in the wee hours of the morning about not getting the entire house clean daily. It would keep me up until I'd finally break down at 4 AM and I'd start to dust and vacuum. Seriously-- no joke! 

In my thirties I thought I got things down to a science. I was home all day and I'd clean like a mad woman until my husband came home. Of course, I'd still feel guilty that not everything got done and I vowed to get up at 5 AM every morning to at least start a load of laundry and clean the dishes from all the midnight snacking. I reserved my urge to vacuum until 9 AM because at that time we were in an condo-like apartment complex and I didn't want to wake the family below me. I learned from the days of the high rise apartment in my twenties. ;) 

Today though in my forties, and now having a decade of fibro experiences, I think MUCH differently. A clean house is a group effort-- period. If you are the only one in the group that puts in the effort on a daily basis, the house won't ever be to your standards. 

I have finally come to terms with the fact that my house will never, not ever, be as clean as I'd like. Kids will be kids and husbands will be husbands. Having said that, that DOES NOT mean that I don't strive for a clean house. Quite the contrary! 

I have a schedule for every day of the week and I stick to certain rooms and certain activities each day. For instance, if I'm supposed to vacuum-- that is what I do. I DO NOT bother putting my children's toys away in that room. 

I grab a bag or a bucket and put all of the crap I find on the floor in that bag/bucket and give it to the kids to deal with. I have also been known to do the same to my husband too. ;) 



Now, I can't speak for all of you, but I think part of my problem was I used to do it all because it was expected that I did. Maybe that expectation isn't reaching consciousness with the people I live with-- BUT that doesn't mean it isn't there when half the room is filled with toys, shoes, and snack clutter that was obviously not all of my doing. 

Yes, I used to be on top of all of those things! I did the housework of five people before I got sick-- probably just like all of you-- but really should I have had to do that? The answer is a resounding no! My kids and husband are older and they are wiser too. ;)  That means they can all pitch in every now and again so I can do what I should have done in the first place, the work of one. And I can now FINALLY say, I'm content with that!

Stay fabulous!
Love and friendship,

Kimberley

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