Tuesday, June 25, 2013

When Stress Leads to Flares

I often find this topic hard to discuss because of it's nature.  It's not that I'm closed lipped about my life-- quite the contrary.  I'm an open book with my feelings.  In fact, here's me deep in thought about this post:

But sometimes I get so consumed with emotion that I find it hard to express those feelings into words.  It would be nice if I could just post a picture of my face, and nothing more, at times.  That might say it all since my life is written all over my face, but I am, after all, a writer and I have to find a way to make the words come out because if I don't, I feel a little bit of me is lost.

Stress is one of my main triggers for a flare.  I often feel trapped when stressed.  I find it hard to move past it because I just can't see past it and then I fear that it will consume my life forever.

Has that ever happened to you?

My stress has to do with care taking for several family members aside from my own children and it's a stress that I can find overwhelming at times.  I try to reach out but, sometimes, people with their well-meaning behavior, will tell you your stress is normal, and that EVERYBODY goes through it.

Really?  EVERYBODY takes care of their grandparents and parents in their early twenties to their 40th birthday and counting.  Really?  And without the aid of a nursing home, day care, or anything else almost?  Really?

If you smell some sarcasm it is TOTALLY intentional-- and for good reason.  Most people today have assumed that people with Fibro can't handle stress.  That's the psychosomatic bad wrap happening-- at least that's what I believe.  It's a tough truth we Fibromites have had to deal with at one point or another in our lives.  The people we care to know seem to stop caring about our situation. 

Some of them didn't know us and they may think we are blowing things out of proportion, some of them stuck it out, but still feel we are a bunch of drama queens/kings, and some of them are trying to get it, but for reasons that we can't understand, they just don't understand us at all.  And these might be friends that you should consider cutting ties with.

I'm not saying that there aren't true friends out there.  There are!  And you have to celebrate the ones that get it!  But the ones that don't are different.

I've tried to keep some of them in my life.  I had valued their friendship for many reasons that had nothing to do with my illness.  Some of them were around before I got sick, others I got to know during my illness.  But lately, and maybe it's because I've turned the "magic number" of 40, I've become irritated.  I really don't think I have anymore time for people that dismiss my feelings.  Is that harsh?  Maybe.  But I sure don't think so.

We as humans try to surround ourselves with the things we want in life.  If we want positive people, we will strive for that, and nothing more.  If we'd like love, sometimes we look for it in the wrong place and we may just get the scraps of the people we call friends.

Now, that may not sound fair to you.  Some of your friends that have been acting less than one have been around for ages.  They have loved you BEFORE diagnoses and have even held your hand, but now, it's different.  And even though it is-- why pull the plug?

You don't have to!  BUT that doesn't mean that you have to be around them all the time and absorb that negative energy from them day after day.  Perhaps they thought you'd get better, see a shrink, or loose what they thought was drama.  I'm not sure, but I do know one thing, some friends are supposed to be with you for life and others are just there for a short time.  Think as deeply as I am now, and love where you can, but love from afar if it's healthier.

Stay fabulous!
Love and friendship,


Saturday, June 22, 2013

16 Best Fibromyalgia Blogs of 2013

Fibro and Fabulous was ranked as one of the top 16 Fibromyalgia blogs for the second year in a row by Healthline.com.

Other blogs that were also ranked in the top 16 (in no particular order) are:

The Invisible Disease
Felicia Fibro
My Foggy Brain
Faith, Family, & Fibro
Life and Fibromyalgia
Counting My Spoons
Seeking Equilibrium
The Fibro Frog
Fightin the Fibro
Dawn's Fibro Blog
My Life with Fibromyalgia Pain
Inspired Living with Fibromyalgia
Mummy Whisperer
But You Don't Look Sick

Congrats to all!

I especially would like to thank my readers because I could not have done this without you!

Stay fabulous!
Love and friendship,


Thursday, June 20, 2013

70 Percent of Americans are on Prescription Drugs


Wednesday, June 19, 2013

What a World We Live In

It has come to my attention that the Fibro and Fabulous site may have been hacked.  I have reported the sites to Goggle that I believe are in question and I have temporarily removed my links page to further stop these soulless beings from harming any of my readers. 

I completely apologize to everyone who reads this blog.  I hope and pray that none of you were affected by this. 

Hopefully my links page can be reposted in the future, but until then, if you need any informational sites, please email me personally, or message me on a social networking site.

Thank you and Stay Fabulous!

Love and friendship,

Doctors Confirm that Fibromyalgia Is Not Imaginary

Can I just simply say that it's about DAMN time LOL!!!!!!


Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Nerve Stimulation Might Ease Fibromyalgia Pain

Though this study is in its complete infancy, I find it incredibly interesting that PET scans changed during stimulation.  I do find this exciting, but I think I'll hold my comments until they test this more mainstream.  I'm also not keen on the price tag either.  Hopefully that comes down too LOL!


Tuesday, June 11, 2013

A Response to the Fibromyalgia and Weather Correlation

Though I am very skeptical of the research that has been done with this particular study (please read my previous post entitled, Weather Doesn't Trigger Fibromyalgia Symptoms?, I do applaud the researcher responding to patients with Fibromyalgia.

I honestly believe that she is trying very hard to help people with Fibromyalgia, I just think her perception of weather is a little skewed.  There are many factors to consider with weather, and only giving this study a month, not focusing on all the seasons, and choosing to pick a geographic area that does not have extreme weather conditions, really did play a huge role in their findings.  I honestly believe that if they did an extensive study, involved other countries, added in extreme conditions, and focused on every season, they may have opposing figures to look at. Hopefully, someone else will look at the facts, interpret flaws, and study this issue again. 

Until then, I really hope this study is not used as a basis of facts linking Fibromyalgia to Psychosomatic Disorders.  That would be really discouraging for many patients.

Stay fabulous!
Love and friendship,


Thursday, June 6, 2013

Weather Doesn't Trigger Fibromyalgia Symptoms?

Okay folks, you all know how I feel about studies and this one takes the cake!  A study was done in the Netherlands to see if the weather triggers a flare.  The Netherlands typically doesn't have a drastic change in temperature, summers are cool and winters are not extreme (according to http://www1.american.edu/ted/ice/dutch-sea.htm).

Now granted, this study was supposed to be about sunshine verses rain and winter verses summer, but generally, when you talk to a person about the weather, they include heat, or lack there of in their perception of the weather.  A rainy day is okay, but if it's a cold rainy 60 days in a place that's normally sunny, that's something completely different for someone who suffers from Fibromyalgia.  And they probably WILL flare if their symptoms are anything like mine.

I wonder if their results would change if they did this study in America-- particularly New England where there is a distinct difference in seasons and the weather temperature could be 30 degrees at night and 90 degrees midday.  And speaking of the dog days, the temperature doesn't have to change outside for my flares.  All I have to do is move from an air conditioned setting and take a short stroll outside in extreme heat for me to feel some sharp pains in my knees.

Personally I think these people should go back to the drawing board and focus a little more on ALL weather aspects of several countries before bold statements are made.  But, having said all of this, this study does prove something I've hypothesized myself, that being, if I were at a location that had stable weather, would I have less flares?  I think the answer may be a resounding yes.  Perhaps I should plan a vacation to the Netherlands to prove this hypothesis true LOL!

Stay fabulous!
Love and friendship,


Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Mojito Meatloaf

I am in no way a chef like Anne Burrell.  I can't even pretend that I "cook like a rock star".  I'm just a plain old Mom who cooks, but I must say that this latest creation is pretty gosh darn good!  It's a kid tested and hubby approved recipe, and as a side note, no alcohol was abused or used in the making of this recipe.  It's strictly a virgin and gluten-free fibro-friendly meal.

1 pound of hormone-free ground turkey (I used Trader Joe's)
2 cloves of organic garlic, pressed
2 slices of a small organic red onion, diced
1/2 teaspoon of paprika
1/4 teaspoon of cumin
1 tablespoon of oregano
1 tablespoon of kosher salt
1/4 teaspoon of ground pepper
3 tablespoons of organic flaxseed meal (I used Bob's Red Mill)
1 egg
Mojito glaze, recipe follows

Preheat oven to 350 degrees.  Combine spices with onion, garlic, ground turkey, flaxseed meal, and egg in a bowl.  Mix well and shape mixture into a loaf pan.

In a large mixing bowl, combine lime rind, lime juice, balsamic white wine vinegar, olive oil, brown sugar, cornstarch, mint, and honey.  Mix well and then heat over high heat for about 1-2 minutes stirring constantly.  Remove from heat and stir until the glaze mixture has thickened.  Set aside to cool slightly.

Place loaf in preheated oven and cook for about 10 minutes.  Remove pan from oven and glaze the meatloaf with half of the Mojito glaze.  Return to oven and bake for about 35 minutes.  Remove pan from oven and glaze the meatloaf the remaining glaze.  Bake 15-20 minutes more, or until the meatloaf is no longer pink and juices run clear.  Place loaf on a cooling rack and cool for approximately 10 minutes to allow the Mojito glaze to harden.  Serve with Indian Basmati rice and peas.  Enjoy.

Mojito Glaze Ingredients:

1 teaspoon of lime zest (about one small lime)
1 organic lime, juiced
1/4 cup of white balsamic vinegar (Trader Joe's)
1/4 cup of olive oil (Trader Joe's)
2 tablespoons of brown sugar
2 teaspoons of cornstarch
2 tablespoons of freshly chopped mint
2 tablespoons of organic wild collected raw honey (Trader Joe's)

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