Pregnancy is a big step for anyone who wants to become a parent. There are a lot of factors that go into raising a family. There's the financial aspect of being able to provide a healthy home, food, and suitable clothing, as well as, a good education. Another thought is lifestyle changes-- how will you cope with a new demanding schedule in the house? Will the both mommy and daddy be a constant in baby's life, or is there one parent that needs to be more of a part-time parent due to family or work circumstances? All of these are valid questions to raise before pregnancy but when you add an illness to the mix-- there may be more.
Fibromyalgia causes a lot of stress in one's life and thinking about adding a family to the mix could make your head spin, but it doesn't have to. I'm living proof that it is possible to have a family and have Fibromyalgia. For those that don't know, I have two beautiful daughters who's ages are 11 and 4. And for those that do know-- indulge me this repetitive thought...
The age difference between my two daughters was not on purpose. I got sick in between pregnancies and it took quite some time to figure out what was wrong with me. Scott and I chose not to have another child until I found out what was wrong because I did not want to bring another child onto this Earth unless I knew it was COMPLETELY safe to do so.
Once I knew I had Fibro, I began to research all that I could on women that had Fibro and gave birth. I looked to the internet and I also looked to friends that have it and have kids. The findings were slim on the internet, yet what I found was positive. And my friends were also positive-- of course.
I took the plunge and we had our second child, Olivia just four years ago. When I look at her, I'm amazed at what she is already at four. My oldest was great-- don't get me wrong-- Brittanny is smart in her own right. She is gifted in the arts AND sciences. But Olivia likes to push as many buttons as she can and she's VERY good at it.
Truth be told, we had a lot of medical issues with Olivia in the beginning with her hearing because we felt she didn't hear us coming to her rescue as parents. You know what I'm saying parents-- you hear the baby cry and you say "I'm coming dear!" and they are SUPPOSED to STOP crying. Well, Olivia didn't. We got her hearing checked and she was FINE! She just WANTED to cry a lot and loud LOL!
But as far as my Fibro goes, thankfully, neither child is showing any signs of disease inheritance yet. And I don't think they will because we exercise and eat healthy. The easiest part of having children is to make sure they exercise and eat healthy. They can do their Wii or bike ride outside and healthy food isn't hard to make either if you cook a bird the natural way. Stick it in the oven with herbs and spices and NO processed crap!
Having kids isn't hard. Dealing with the adult crap is.
Love and friendship,